good gracious. That one argument prochoicers try and use is just so flawed. The whole “if a woman wants to do that to her body, who cares. it’s HER body. it doesn’t affect her.” Well if we’re gonna use that rationale, then i guess we could say “who cares what that rapist does. it’s HIS body.” Hmmmm… seems like something is missing. Ah! I got it! There are TWO people involved. So it is not just the woman who should have a say. The living infant inside of her should have a say whether he or she wants to live their life and make it out there in the world. But they can’t have a say one way or another, because they’re infants of course. But I don’t think they’d say “nah. i don’t wanna live.” So we should give them the chance. And if the woman or young girl doesn’t want the baby because she thinks it will interfere with her life too much, then whatever. wait nine months. it’s just nine months out of her life. It’s an entire life time out of the child’s. so keep that i mind.
I try very hard not to get all political on my blog because I know everyone has different views, and I respect that. I don’t want one of my followers to be offended by something I post. But this kind of shit? It just riles me up. I HATE this argument more then anything. You can be ‘pro-life’* all you want, but please learn the difference between adoption, and abortion. The ONLY thing these things have in common are they are options a pregnant person can make. They do not go hand in hand. AT ALL. Adoption is not an alternative to abortion, it is an alternative to PARENTING. I would like to see someone who has this way of thinking get pregnant, carry their child for nine months and just hand them off to another couple. Can you go through that pain? Can you handle that anguish? I am sick and fucking tired of people demonizing birth moms/parents. I am sick of everyone thinking that a birth mom just passes her kid off like it’s nothing. Because it’s not. It is painful, it is heartbreaking, and I wouldn’t wish someone I hated to have to make that decision. The decision to make an adoption plan is something that affects the rest of your life, it feels like it affects every decision you ever make again. It changes EVERYTHING. It’s not simple, it’s not just ‘nine months’. And if you think that, you can go fuck yourself. Honestly. I am sick of people demonizing women who chose to get abortions. Everyone has different circumstances, and if you can’t understand that, at least respect it.
I’m sorry, I really try to avoid this, but I can’t help it. I hate this argument more then anything in the world. Adoption is not an alternative to abortion, it is an alternative to parenting and I wish people would remember and see the difference.
I haven’t been posting much lately,
mostly because I am crazy busy. And when I’m not crazy busy, the last thing on my mind is like, you know, thinking and stuff. There isn’t too much news on the adoption front. Our first visit is still on June 30th. I’m crazy nervous but I’m trying not to think of it too much. I wanna get Matthew, David and Rachel each a small gift. Ideas anyone? I don’t want to get anything extravagant, but just a nice small gift for them. I’m totally lost on ideas though so if some of my lovely followers could help me out, or push me in the right direction. It’d be greatly appreciated!
I’ve been blogging a lot on my ‘personal blog’. And by blogging a lot, I mean reblogging pictures of pretty celebrities whining that I’m not and never will be as pretty as them. Such is a life. If you wanna follow me over there, I update it nearly daily. It’s mostly trivial shit, but if your interested Half a Mind to Double Up Baby. Expects lots of fangirling, instragam-ness, and me generally being a mopey brat.
I didn’t really get a chance to post anything yesterday or on Saturday
so here it goes now! Happy belated birth mothers day to all the lovely birth mama’s I’ve met. No matter what, you’re always be a mom, and don’t let anyone take that from you! Happy belated mothers day to all the wonderful moms out there, whether it was through adoption, fostering, whatever. You ladies deserve it!
I spent my Birth Mothers day in the best way possible, I think. Zakk graduated from school on Saturday, so I got to spend the whole day being super proud of my guy. Not for only being a college grad but for already having a job to start today! He’s at work right now, and I couldn’t be more proud of him. Poor thing had to get up at 4 in the morning, but still. At least one of us is getting our lives together! It was a super long day, but it involved some kickass chicken parmesan, and banana cake with cream cheese frosting (which I totally pretended was for me being a birth mom!).
Sunday was far less eventful, we were supposed to stay at his aunts to hang out with his mom, grandma and aunt, but since there was a bit of a communication break we never took anything over Saturday so we just went home late. We had a super lazy Sunday, napping and then we started to clean up his apartment a little since he’s staying at his moms until he can move into his new apartment in July. Like I said, I’m so very proud of him for being able to accomplish so much and be so successful. Let’s hope some of that shit rubs off on me!
And here I was thinking I was lucky to not be tagged.
Fyi, I probably won’t even tag 11 people cause like all my favorite blogs have pretty much already done this, so there’s no point. Also, I don’t even know 11 people. I’m anti-social, ya’ll. You should know this.
Rule 1: Post the rules.
Rule 2: Answer the questions the tagger set for you in their post and then make 11 new ones.
Rule 3: Tag 11 people and link them to your post.
Rule 4: Let them know you’ve tagged them.
As tagged by the sadistic ItOnlyLooksLikeI’mInCharge
Where does time go?
I know that I’m not really old by any means, but sometimes I just feel like time stopped back in the 2000’s. My oldest nephew will be seventeen in a few days. We’re only like 4 years apart, but still. I remember holding him in the hospital, it’s one of my earliest memories. He’s getting ready for prom, and he’s joining the army. The ARMY! I can’t believe it honestly. I’m scared for him, but incredibly proud of him too. He’s had everything against him, from such a young age. I’m proud he’s making something of himself, and doing what he wants to do. He’s a dork, but he’s a smart kid.
Zakk is graduating this Saturday. I feel like it was yesterday, rather then two years ago, that we were canoeing at Pinchot, and I was crying that I was scared he was going to leave me behind. Scared as always, that I was doing nothing with my life while everyone was moving on. That’s one thing that hasn’t really changed, but still.
Matthew is 7 months old! He’s eating real food, cutting teeth, all that fun stuff. Where did that baby boy go? He’s turning into a little man. I’m not even there to experience it all and I just wanna tell him to slow down! That he’s supposed to be a baby for a lot longer then this and that I do not appreciate him growing up so fast. I can only imagine how Rachel and David feel.
Happy Day Mobile Mother’s Day Giveaway!
(Note: this photo is from Crochet Today’s website, and the pattern I am using to crochet this mobile is from Crochet Today’s magazine.)
I wanted to do something for the mothers of tumblr for mother’s day! The prize is a crochet Happy Day Mobile crocheted by me! This does not exclude mothers to be, long time mothers, or girls/ women waiting to TTC. Basically if you’re female, you can enter! Males can too, I just hope they’d give the mobile to a mother or child! If you don’t feel this applies to you, don’t worry! I will make a free for all giveaway in the future. :)
Description: Item very similar to the photo above, but because it’s handmade there are bound to be small differences. I will be using Red Heart Super Saver Yarn and/ or Red Heart Kids Yarn.
How to enter: By living on this planet because I can ship anywhere. You can enter a total of two times per person. Once by reblogging this post, and once by liking this post.
Rules:
- You don’t have to follow me. Following me does nothing.
- Reblogging more than once disqualifies you. I want to give everyone a fair chance.
- Each person can only use one blog to enter. I will keep an eye on everyone and disqualify the blogs of those who break this rule.
- This giveaway is intended for mothers, but if you are a male intending to give this as a gift to a mother or your child then feel free to enter.
- If you are waiting to have children/ want children someday and your blog doesn’t make that clear I’ll disqualify you because I don’t want this to go to someone who will never use it as a mother, but if I know you are waiting to have children/ want children someday, I will not disqualify you. Message me if you’d like me to make an exception for you, I may!
- I need your ask box to be open in order to contact you if you win, and you’ll have to trust me with your mailing address if you win.
- This giveaway ends Tuesday May 8th at 12pm PDT. The winner, if in the USA, will receive this package Saturday May 12th. I’m not sure when people residing outside the USA would receive it though. Good luck!
If you have any questions, feel free to send them to my ask box!
I would love to have something like this to give to Rachel for Matthew. It’s so cute. I wish I could make more stuff for him. I have only sent him a Christmas gift because I don’t want to flood them with stuff. But I’m always thinking of things I want to get him. I know that I’m not a ‘mommy’ in a typical sense or whatever, but hey, I still got a kid to spoil!
June 30th,
official date of when we are gonna meet up with David, Rachel and Matthew. Ah, I’m so nervous adkfjasd;klfajs;df
How will I ever know if I made the right decision?
I just talked to boyfriends mom again. She is convinced that adoption is the best option because we weren’t planning this baby. She thinks that we would be doing a great thing by giving it up to a family who can’t have their own children. She says that boyfriend loves me and would love a family with me when the time is right. She can’t believe that I am leaving him to raise this child when we are such a great couple.
She says that I am breaking his heart by leaving. I told her that I think it is my responsibility to raise this child because I was the one who got pregnant. She says its not. She says its my responsibility to do what is best for the child and that is giving it up for an open adoption and giving it two families that love it.
I can’t help but think that maybe she has a point. Its too late now. I am keeping it and we will be happy but I can’t help but think that I am leaving him and that might not be necessary. Maybe we could live happily ever after knowing we gave the baby to a happy family. I am so terribly confused.
Adoption isn’t always the answer for everyone. But I just want you to know, there is happiness after placing. It all isn’t crippling sadness, and longing. Maybe it is the right choice for you, maybe it’s not. Don’t let anyone force you into something you don’t want. Your boyfriend is wrong to teach you like he is doing, and I’m not making any excuses for him. But I’m sure he is just as scared and confused as you are. It’s never easy, and it’s not a decision you can make overnight. Nothing anyone can say will make you know for sure. Just know that there are always people to support you, no matter what you do!
